Before we started this process we read several books and all of the internet.  There isn’t a lot of [accurate] media and I don’t personally know any lesbians, who have gone through this process, to draw experiences from, so the internet and books were our reference to get things started.  It led to some missteps, as different doctors have different letters after their names that we didn’t know we needed to look for, sometimes we didn’t ask the right questions right away and ended up wasting our time, and laws and practices vary so much employer to employer, state to state. Continue reading →